I’m 50 years old but the youngest of 4 sisters. I’ve been taking care of our 82 yr old mother who has dementia/Altzheimers & Parkinson’s, virtually on my own for the last 7 1/2 years. In Oct 2017 I finally asked for help & hired a caregiver to work 3-4 days per week @ $150/day, a very reasonable rate for caregivers. I told my sisters I could no longer work & receieve no salary & that it would be only fair to receive the same monetary rate as the other part time caregiver. My sisters then said I should start paying a portion of the monthly bills to cover household expenses for me & my son who are currently living in the home (the same home that is left to me upon her entering a nursing home). At present time, me & my 20 yr old son are paying 75% of the monthly household bills. Expenses for her supplies & money to pay myself & the other caregiver exceeds what she receives monthly from retirement & social security money. Here’s the problem: Miraculously I’ve reconnected with a high school boyfriend & we want him to move in about 6 mos into the home to help & then get married shortly thereafter. I feel if he, my son & myself are taking care of 100% of the household bills plus covering additional cost for groceries, we meet our financial obligation in the situation. My sisters feel that a separate fee for rent should be charged to my future husband so that he doesn’t live here for “free”. They want that extra money from him to go toward paying for her additional monthly supplies and/or caregiver expenses (half of which is paid to me!) I on the other hand think that all 4 sisters should contribute to paying for her monthly supplies. We wouldn’t mind paying a portion of her monthly supplies, if ALL 4 sisters contribute equally. Currently none of the other 3 sisters pay $0 money or time for our mother. Essentially they want to use as little as possible of her retirement fund, which is meant to go toward her care. They’re concerned if one day each of them will have to contribute some of their own money if/when the money runs out. Currently we have over $300,000 left in her retirement fund. Since myself, my future husband & my son are covering all the monthly household bills we’ve reduced taking $5,000/month from her retirement fund to $3,000/month. Who’s right? I’d like an unbiased opinion.