My 93-year old mother has dementia and has been in the memory care unit of a for-profit assisted living facility for two years. We have run out of money and I need to move her out. The ALF has not been very helpful, although back when I first visited the sales person assured me they would help me find another place for her if we had to move her.
Last November I spoke with the head of the memory care unit and explained that we were running low on funds and he also said they would help me to find a place for my mother and reminded me that I needed to give them 30 days notice. Well, I gave notice at the end of April and the ALF has been almost useless, telling me to "keep them informed." They gave my contact information to a man who supposedly works with people to get their relatives into facilities, but he only works with for-profit facilities.
He was kind enough to refer me to a woman who suggested a few places I didn't know about. I didn't know about a lot of things: the Patient Referral Instrument and Screen and that there were facilities that accepted patients "Medicaid pending," It seems as though skilled nursing facilities are reluctant to accept a patient that is still mobile. I feel lost and panicked. The month is halfway over and the ALF already asked me about a moving out date. I told them if I could not move my mother this month I would get the money for June, though right now I have no idea where I would get it.
I'm an only child and because I took out the personal loan in November I will have to push my retirement back two more years in order to pay the loan off. My internist gave me contact information for an elder care consultant, a LMSW. I reached out to her and am waiting to hear back. Would appreciate any advice from those of you who have been in similar situations.