She has no money except Social Security. She has jewelry that could help for assisted living but she won't sell it. I'm at the end of my rope. We are fighting all the time. She has to go. I need some help. Please.
Debcajan, you need to post your own question under a new post so people can answer you there. It's not kosher to hijack another person's personal posting with a problem of your own. People will be glad to help, but post it it separately. Peace.
My mother gets Social Security And Va check she don't want me to go back to work and she keeps track of her money she is diving me nuts. she don't pay anything in the house. My sister called the state on me and I have POA what should I do.
Jeannegibbs gave great advice. But yes, it would be helpful if you could give us more information such as age, any dementia, do you have POA or guardianship? I agree that there are options for low income seniors with housing. Many times there are apartments available where they must meet certain income levels and maybe she will. She can also have mobile meals. If she drives, senior centers also provide companionship and often times a meal.
californiagirl, what kind of care does your mother need? I see in your profile that her main impairment is diabetes. That can cover a wide range of disabilities, from almost none to severe disability.
Would your mom be able to live independently? You mention assisted living. What kind of assistance does she need?
You cannot force her to sell jewelry or other assets. You cannot insist she move to assisted living. But you can determine who lives in your house. You can say that she can't live with you. If you are firm about that, then she has to make other arrangements.
One way you can help her is start the contact with your county's Social Services department. Ask for a needs assessment. (Be present when this takes place. Elderly parents are not always very realistic when reporting their own skills and needs.) Social Services can explain options to Mom and you can help her follow up on what seems realistic. Social Services will also know of programs Mom might be qualified for. You could help Mom apply.
Just be VERY clear with Mom and with social workers and with every one you talk to that Mom cannot continue to live with you. You are willing to help her find other options, but your house is not an option.
If she is the widow of a WWII vet, or other war, she may get assistance from the VA. A good facility will help you with the financials. A widow of a war veteran can get up to $1113 per month.
Would your mom be able to live independently? You mention assisted living. What kind of assistance does she need?
You cannot force her to sell jewelry or other assets. You cannot insist she move to assisted living. But you can determine who lives in your house. You can say that she can't live with you. If you are firm about that, then she has to make other arrangements.
One way you can help her is start the contact with your county's Social Services department. Ask for a needs assessment. (Be present when this takes place. Elderly parents are not always very realistic when reporting their own skills and needs.) Social Services can explain options to Mom and you can help her follow up on what seems realistic. Social Services will also know of programs Mom might be qualified for. You could help Mom apply.
Just be VERY clear with Mom and with social workers and with every one you talk to that Mom cannot continue to live with you. You are willing to help her find other options, but your house is not an option.