I never really pushed having a POA because I'm on all her bank accounts and her Mobile home. By the time she moved in with me she had already had several small strokes, and was losing her ability to make decisions. I questioned whether she would understand or fight me. So I never pursued it. Mom had the presence of mind to pre plan and pay for her funeral service. This was back in 1995 she bought her casket, and made arrangements for her funeral up in the city where she lived before moving in with me. Her paperwork says it has been paid for since 2004.. Now, fast forward, she passed away in Feb of this year. Since I do not have a POA, the funeral home had to send out Affidavits to her three surviving kin to allow me to finalize her final plans. Well, they are all in their 80s. It's been a month and we are still waiting for one more to be returned. I'm so done at this point. Just bury her as she asked for. Then my husband and I GET to drive 300 miles to finalize her plans, then drive 300 miles again for her service. So confused.