I was in the hospital for a total of 42 days. It's taken me a year to recover. I had to give up my apartment and go live with my daughter, who is 31. She is mean and demands that I do housework and clean her children's bedrooms since she works and is basically taking care of me financially, although it's bare-bones care. She screamed and told me that she could talk to me, her mother, in such a manner because it was her home and she was paying the rent. She has backed off somewhat since I was able to get out of bed more often and told her to back off. I still am not able to do much housework and I totally won't clean her children's bedrooms. If I do physical work, I will surely have a heart attack and die. I need to leave and get my own home again, but I'm not old enough for relocation services. Any suggestions?
Are you on disablity? Not sure how to file for it...talk to someone in your state offices.
There is gov. subsidized housing, in all states. They have apartment complexes for the elderly and disabled. Rents are reduced according to income. Also, could you get a roomate or move in with another relative/friend temporarily?
Next, file for food stamps and whatever else your state allows.
I would do anything to get out of that toxic situation. BTW, how would your daughter feel if it was she that moved into your home with the kiddos. Would she tolerate you screaming at her and asking her to be your unpaid slave.
If you decide to continue doing domestic chores, hand your daughter a brochure from a local cleaning company. I called one recently to get info. for my Mom. They charge anywhere from $85 to $100 per DAY for light housekeeping.
Get some physical therapy, get back on your feet, and get out.
Good luck,
Lilli