I have power of attorney for my 86 year old aunt. She lives alone and has middle stage demenita. The doctors agree it's time for memory care. She never married and has no kids. She refuses to have care givers in her house and locked them out repeatedly. She isn't speaking to my husband or I because I took away the car after her 4th fall and 4 rehab stays. She doesn't regularly take her prescription meds, so anything for agitation won't help (per doctor). She's been mean. :(Any suggestions? I can say Rehab or therapy but as soon as we pull up to the home she will fight tooth and nail and not get out of the car.
The MC can help you in setting this all up. And, it is no longer what Aunt wants, its what she needs.
Either that or hire medical transport .Maybe ask if the police will help like burnt said .
I still think the OP should involve whoever the aunt does let into her home help with getting her to the memory care. Maybe they should explore the possibility of live-in caregivers instead of memory care.
With doctors these days their only solution is placement or family gives up their life to become care slaves. These are not the only options.
I remember the days when the doctor told an elder that they could not go home from the hospital. That doesn’t happen anymore either . They leave it up to the family to tell the elder they have to go live in a facility. That often doesn’t go well because the elder does not listen to family .
I would discuss the issue with her doctor and her, and then with her doctor if she is unable to be at all cooperative. You need to explain to her where she is going and why. If she cannot understand it then you will need medical transport to get her to Memory care.
She's letting someone into her house and that person or people are the ones you should be asking to help you get her into memory care. She's a hostile transfer and you may have to ask the police to help get her into an ambulance to take her. They will help with the transfer if you need them to.