Need someone to talk to, I'm feeling alone. - AgingCare.com

Need someone to talk to, I'm feeling alone.

Follow
Share

Hello! This is my first post here. I am Patricia..and just needed to vent. My grandmother got diagnostized with diabetes when I was only 4. I am only child of a single mother, yes,I have an aunt and an uncle, but they live far away from us. For more than 10 years, my grandmother was going great! she was such a strong lady, laughing, telling jokes, watering her flowers..and everything!
Until last week... as I type this, we are waiting for the results of her blood tests. They don´t know if she has an stomach/bladder infection, or she is just dealing with health complications related to her diabetes. Anyways, the doctor told us not to expect too much. And I am very scared. I know that whatever it is going to happen...it is going to happen, but I feel like I needed to talk to someone.

This question has been closed for answers. Ask a New Question.
8

Answers

Show:
" We are all in this thing together " and i might add, none of us make it out alive.
i speed read so ive read the whole book. the end was rather anticlimactical.
hope your grandmother is ok. im just getting coffee-d up for another day of wood cutting -- and being an ass..
Helpful Answer (1)
Report

LadyPat, I don't have advice, other than don't worry about what you can't change because it may, like so many others have said, be nothing more than a scare and be something they can treat... Some elderly tend to "hang on for dear life" quite literally. And they do.... for longer than anyone expected. Just know you are getting tons of virtual hugs.
And for Celticlass, I second what Standing Alone says... it's all part of this life cycle. My father used to say death is as natural as life, and you cannot have one without the other.... I am a believer in a higher power/God, and I really believe we'll understand WHY it has to be this way when we die, and it will all be ok. In the meantime the pain is real and acute when we lose someone, or when we are preparing to. When my father went into the hospital at 89 yrs old for congestive heart failure in '09, mom called and said 'get here'.... I flew right up and didn't leave his bedside. Within a few days of my arrival, the most important man in my life was fading fast on morphine. While I wanted to hang onto him, after about 8 hours at his bedside I had to stretch and slip out for fresh air and I was gone 10 minutes. 10 freaking minutes... I came back to the 2 nurses blocking the entrance with the news he had passed. Still, I didn't leave. I stayed for another 1-1/2 hours talking to him and even got in bed with him. Now it's going on 5 years later and I still can't fully let go. We never can. As dad said, "In the end, love is all that matters" and I believe that love never, ever dies. That love you share will sustain you...for the rest of your life. Just know you too are not alone. We are all in this thing together.
Helpful Answer (2)
Report

Celticlass, I'm so sorry for your pain and for your mom. *hugs* This is all just so hard. I find myself crying out of nowhere sometimes. One minute I'm ok, the next I'm blubbering like crazy. My mom died Dec 20th, and really, at the end stage of Alz it was a blessing. Still... It's painful. Sometimes when I'm here in her house, and taking care of her dog, it seems unreal that she's gone and that I won't ever see her again in this life. It hurts that she's never going to be here again, but at the same time it's a comfort to me to be living in her house where I have so many memories of her and my dad... You're not alone. We're all hurting in our own way around here. *hugs*
Helpful Answer (3)
Report

This was exactly how I'm feeling tonight. My mom has stage four breast cancer and is on hospice. A few weeks ago she turned wrong and now has a hairline fracture of her hip. She's on bed rest for the next four to six weeks and has been talking more about this is the last time she will do things like see her friends for st Patrick day celebration. She's setting aside money for her cremation and making plans for her memorial service she even wants me to write her obituary and eulogy while she's still here to read or. I'm sitting here crying because I feel alone. I'm not ready to let her go
Helpful Answer (2)
Report

Ladypat, I remember the first time I took my mom to the Emergency Room - I thought it was the end. Now, probably 10 trips later to the ER between my mom and dad I've learned seniors have a lot of ups and downs. So your grandmother may just be having one of those downs and bounce right back. So hang in there and don't get too worried. It may turn out to be something that is easily treatable.
Helpful Answer (2)
Report

my 89 yr old aunt was coughing up blood and honestly thought she hadnt long to live but a trip to the er only found a bad flu bug.
Helpful Answer (1)
Report

Patricia, there' a lot of stomach bugs going around this winter. Flu is especially hard for a diabetic. Hopefully this is only a little set back. Blood tests will give the MD a better picture of how to treat her. Hugs to you.
Helpful Answer (1)
Report

We understand scared around here, LP. I'm glad you posted. You'll get a lot of support from people who've been around this block many times. It's very hard, and very sad, watching a loved one decline. Hopefully, your grandmother will bounce back very soon. A lot of elderly, if you keep reading around here, go through seemingly serious health issues where family wonders if they're going to pass away...only to have the elderly person come back stronger than ever. My own mom survived one health crisis after another for years before she passed away at age 88. With major heart and lung problems we were surprised she made it that far. Don't listen to some doc that says not to expect much. It's amazing how tough the elderly can really be. I hope all is well very soon. *hugs*
Helpful Answer (3)
Report

This question has been closed for answers. Ask a New Question.
Related
Questions