II have taken care of them for 20 years since my mother passed away I have never asked for one cent to care for them I used to work but I took an early retirement when I was diagnosed with breast cancer I'm a 13-year survivor now my only income is my social security after my expenses I don't have much left but I do need a reliable car that I have just in need of tires I couldn't get the maintenance to rotate my tires because said my tires were too far gone so if there's any help that I can get I would really appreciate it I promised my mom that I would continue caring for them as long as I could but that means have been a way to get back and forth to them thank you I appreciate any help I can get
But you probably should look into getting a facility placement, paid for by Medicaid, for your sister and brother-in-law, as the situation is only going to get more challenging as you all get older. At least check into what assistance is available to them, either in their home or in a home for people with different needs.
If only we DID know of such help.
Generally we refer folks to the local counsel on aging or agency on aging who might know of community help. You might try your faith based centers and senior centers. Speak to social workers involved in the care of your loved ones.
Some people refer people to such places as Habitat for Humanity for repairs. I haven't a clue if they can help.
I sure wish you good luck, and can do no more.
Save up your money for tires.
Start a Go Fund Me account and ask family and friends on social media to donate.
Call local tire places and ask for donations of older tires that still have more tread on them than yours.
Check Marketplace
Ask for donations of usable tires on Nextdoor
We are just a forum of caregivers to elders ourselves, many in the same boat as you.
Good luck.