My 85 yr old Dad lives with and takes care of my 84 yr old Mom. Mom suffers from dementia. She is aware of her world, remembers all of us, but is easily confused and rapidly losing words and memories. My Dad is a depressed alcoholic who has had a falling out with 5 of his 6 children over the past few years. We all have a great relationship with our mother, visiting and calling often up until the past 3 months. My dad has started to poison that relationship. Telling our Mom we did not call, telling her she is more frail than her Dr's say she is, telling her we are being mean to him, telling her she does not need an aide to come in or a life alert bracelet (she's had 3 falls in the past 6 months we know of that have resulted in stitches and/or bruises and black eyes). We need to find a path to deal with his anger so we can keep her connected and healthy. Any moderators or social workers we can call?