I'm looking for help making a decision about the seemingly endless replacement of Mom's hearing aids. She is 94 and living in a memory care facility, recently recovered from Covid, and is currently in hospice care. After a discussion today with a hospice counselor, I've learned that Mom has improved to the extent that she possibly will be taken off hospice care at her next evaluation! That was the good news. The bad news was in addition, I've been told she's lost yet another hearing aid. After having replaced them 5x since she was placed in memory care 3 years ago, I'm exasperated. I don't need to tell you how expensive hearing aids are.
I understand and recognize the consequences of not replacing the hearing aids. With verbal interaction curtailed, the rate of her dementia will accelerate. I don't want Mom to feel cut off in her interactions with others, etc. I do have compassion. There is money available for another replacement set of hearing aids, $4K, that comes with a one-time reduced replacement for $250. As I've said, we've done this replacement cycle multiple times. This doesn't count the many times I have searched her room with a fine-toothed comb and actually found the missing aids, but more often than not we never find them. It just feels hopeless now. Am I crazy to keep throwing money at hearing aids? Or am I cruel to say "Enough!"
Mom is gradually failing with her ADLs. She gets showering assistance, needs help occasionally with toileting, only partially ambulatory; sometimes okay with her walker but sometimes needs a wheelchair. I have enlisted the help of the staff to help Mom remove and put on her hearing aids, but still this happens. I wouldn't be surprised if they're not getting flushed down the toilet. How else could they completely vanish?
Has anyone else had a similar conundrum, and what did you do?