About 18 months ago my 82 year old mother had to be hospitalized for a UTI. Recently she fell and was told she has a temporary brain injury. Before that, my mother and mentally disabled brother (brain damage due to childhood injury) 52, went to doctor visits regularly. They went to several doctors like clock work. They made a day out of it. They went to breakfast then went shopping somewhere and I would pick them up in the evening. Something has shifted however. Now getting them to comply with doctor visits has been a nightmare. They have broken appointment after appointment at the last minute. I take off work because they tell me they are going to the doctor and then they say they're not going for the simplest reason. My brother doesn't reason the way we do and discussing things reasonably and logically has been of no effect. He gets frustrated and upset and thinks I don't understand his reasons for not going. My mom has run out of one of her heart medications and my brother is also reaching the point where needs several medications to be refilled. The medications they now take are life saving prescriptions. They are dealing with hypertension, diabetes, heart issues. I have tried going to their doctors and explaining the situation to them but they say their hands are tied because they need blood work and haven't been seen in quite some time. Is there any agency for people like my mom and brother who need help on a whole other level to get these life sustaining medicines when they are in this kind of situation? They are at high risk and won't leave the house. Since my mother's recent brain injury she sometimes refuses the physical therapy nurse at the door after the appointment has been set yet she says she still wants help.
Are you the Medical POA? If so you should contact the doctor. If not you will need first to work on the Medical POA. Then visit the doctor and see about getting the drugs renewed. This will mean that you are the one to have computer contact as to when the drugs are running out, and etc.
I wish I had a better idea for you; I hope others do. I sure wish you luck.
I don't know how u will accomplish it, but Mom needs to go to the Dr. Maybe a little white lie saying to keep her Medicare she must go.
If Mom has a dementia, she is not capable of caring for brother so you need to find him a place. There are group homes that will help him. He is not ready for a NH situation. So sorry you will be going thru this. I was able to put Nephew on the back burner while caring for Mom. He can live on his own. Once Mom passed then I was able to help him.