I am 40 years old and take care of my mom who is 63. She is disabled due to a brain disease and severe COPD. I have been taking care of her for the last 15 years. This past year she has gotten a lot worse. She is a fall risk (falls without warning and does not try to brace herself for impact). She has memory issues. She cannot be trusted with her own medication. She will shower on her own (after a lot of yelling and screaming). She does not help with anything in the house.
In the past 5 years she has started doing out of character things. Such as leaving in the middle of the night and going to my neighbors to go to the hospital... why she did not wake is still a mystery. She roams the house and steals if you do not pay attention. She is so unclean anymore and the list goes on. I cannot take it anymore. I have to work to support the house (she is on SSD and Medicare), but her income is not enough to live on for the house. I don't know what to do anymore and I am the end of my rope. I was told that I would have to pay for her to go to a nursing home, which I cannot afford. Can someone please tell me what options I have?
Can she be put into a nursing home and her SSD check and Medicare pay for it? She was just in the hospital 2 weeks ago and now needs more help. She does not make sense when you talk to her, she has had memory problems since her second brain surgery... Sorry I know I am all over the place. I am lucky if I get 3 hours of sleep anymore. Someone told me to take her to a homeless shelter. I don't want to do that. I want her to be in a place where she can get taken care of. I do not know what to do or where to being... any and all help is much appreciated.