She’s been in the home for several years. In the last few weeks both her health and mental capacity have deteriorated rapidly. This week the nursing home called a family meeting to “discuss current interventions”. At this meeting, my sister and I were being pushed, urgently, to get a durable power of attorney. It was a “time is of the essence” message. My question is why does my mom NOW need someone to have a POA? She has no money, has an advanced directive, etc. Due to her diabetes, her heart, kidneys, etc. are failing fast and her legs are oozing constantly. We were told that she would be kept comfortable with pain medications, and so on. We are suspicious that the nursing home wants someone to be responsible to pay for treatments that we might decide to get even if Medicaid doesn’t cover it. But, at this stage, we’ve been told, little or nothing can be done other than palliative care. We’ve been put in touch with a lawyer and are being pressured to get this done ASAP before Mom is no longer able to sign the papers. I’m very skeptical and don’t know what to do. It’s several hundred dollars to get the POA done since the lawyer has to come to the nursing home and personally witness the signatures of everyone involved. I’ll have to travel as I live out of state. I’m perfectly willing to do this and get the POA IF it’s necessary but can’t shake the feeling I’m being scammed. Help. Someone explain WHY I need to do this or why it’s not needed.