
I'm new to all this & trying to cope with how this all came so fast with my g-ma all of a sudden (93) & need help when we always needed her help. I just joined today & hope to get ant help/advise.
My (93) yr old g-ma bought home in 1954. She has (2) daughters & (6) grandkids. She's firmly told us, "I'm not leaving my house". My mom & Aunt support her decision. Yet, she turns to me for everything. Long story short, my parents had me at (17) yrs old. She took care of me daily for (5) yrs. & adamant they get a college degree. I'm proud to say my dad’s a retired Captain from American & they're still married🥰
My g-ma's always had a stronger bond with me. She’s always been my rock! I'm embarrassed to say my mom, aunt & myself are the only ones who help her. Every month, I drive (4) hrs from TX & stay (2) weeks (clean, get groceries to get her out of house, spend time as she gets lonely, etc.) She's very sharp, able to get around slowly but small things hurt her feelings & gets emotional. Yet with bad legs/knees weak, she's tripping/falling more than usual.
Several people say Medicaid will help elderly to stay in their homes but have NO clue where to start. If I had to list (3) must needs: 1.) Desperately needs a ramp for porch 2.) A caregiver/friend to visit & keep her from feeling lonely 3.) Stretch fairly new carpet as it has bubbles (afraid of her tripping)
She’s the most caring, loving & selfless person. Growing up in poverty, war, etc. She still tries to put other’s needs before hers. Making sure all have food, warm blankets & pillows. My son’s in the Air Force & a friend based at Tinker Air Force gave her a deep freezer. She goes to food banks & makes/freezes casseroles to have on hand and/or deliver to those who need food. Yes, I’m the designated driver. I can’t say anything about she’s doing too much or it hurts her feelings.
Always, Misty "Proud USAF Sr. Airman Mom"FLY-FIGHT-WIN ✈️
The ramp, call your County Office of Aging to see what programs may be out there. They also have other resourses you may be able to take advantage of.