We sold our house just before pandemic hit 2 yrs ago, relocated 1500 miles to be near my parents to help them/ mom losing eyesight (legally blind, no driving) & dad moderate dementia. My sister has lived nearby them for 30 yrs. Problem is, since moving here, more & more of their neediness is falling on my shoulders now, taking them to appointments/shopping/etc which is fine but mom can be so difficult...stubborn, controlling & snappy...plus many complaints re: her blindness & dad's dementia. She refuses outside help or counseling. Feels family helps family. She will pay my gas & 'feed me" but it's the emotional abusiveness toward me that I am having difficulty with. My children & grandchildren are all 1500 miles away, I haven't seen them in 2 yrs r/t covid pandemic. I am having an emotionally challenging time even visiting my parents except on the necessary duty days. I cannot stand her bullying me, snapping at me, listening over & over about dad's dementia..& how much "work" he is (I get it)...it's unrelenting. It's driving me nuts. I am 68 yrs old & still need to work part time. My husband changed jobs to relocate here. We just want to hightail it back "home". My sister now making her plans to sell her own house, buy a camper so she can enjoy her "retirement" years. What happened to mine??? I am feeling lost, dysfunctional & angry. Whatever happened to the "helping out" part of the deal? Feels like it's all been dumped on me. She makes a stop in to check on them and takes care of financial end, helps with eye doctor appointments but thats it. Anyway, I need some advice. I feel guilty wanting our own lives too....Balance. Helping is one thing, this is grown out of proportion. Their plans are to stay in their own home...no assisted living, etc....Thanks for listening.