Both of my elderly parents have health issues including COPD, possible cancer, suppressed immune system, and onset symptoms of dementia. I have siblings out of state and one is medical and financial POA, or she is supposed to be but my mother recently stated the paperwork is not yet finished. I have no access to anything and my sibling will not share information. I am physically closest to my parents so responsibilities will be mine. I work a lot of hours with back to back patients so time off is very limited. My parents insist my one sibling be the POA because she is the oldest. However, she works a lot, does not have much income and will not be here when my parents need her. My siblings are not cooperative with me. (I am family scapegoat, if you know what that is.) I am feeling pretty helpless and overwhelmed. Parents will not discuss and not open to any changes. I understand boundaries but at the end of the day, I will be the one here and they have no one else to help them. Suggestions?