My mother, 87, with Parkinsons and moderate dementia, has been in a NH just over a year and increasingly refuses to eat. She'll go for breakfast as she likes oatmeal, refuses lunch and I suspect is now refusing dinner as well. Yesterday I picked up things she had asked for which included two types of cookies and assorted chocolate bars. I used to take her a little fruit but, in the last couple of months (since having a stroke) she won't eat it and only wants cookies and chocolate. I didn't go to her room but left the shopping at the desk as I have a cold.
I called her just before dinner time (when I knew she'd be awake as the staff try to get her to go eat) and she told me she wasn't going to dinner. She also said the last time she was weighed she was 80lb. As you can imagine, she's skin and bone and due to taking blood thinners (has for many years) is covered in bruises. After her stroke she was returned from hospital to the NH deemed palliative and sleeps most of the time.
Is her body starting to shut down? Are we nearing the end? Deep down I think I know the answer to my question.