Thank you for this forum. I can't believe I see so many situations similar to mine. My mom was a hoarder and had a couple of properties, omg, it was awful. Being the only, I cleaned and sold them breaking my sanity and my back in the process. I sort of gave up my life to fix hers. And, my god she is vicious, can't take an ounce of criticism, continues to hoard but she is so nice to other people. I don't know where I am going with this, it was just so nice to see I'm not the only one with a mom who doesn't really act like one.