My wife who I love is at home with Hospice. How long can she go?

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My wife is at home with Hospice coming out. She has lung cancer, her leg has turn black, she has not eaten nothing in 30 days nor BM in 30 days, and other things going on how long can she go?

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I believe in telling someone it's okay if they go on. Assure her that you will be okay and that you love her and you will see her again. Also, sometimes I've seen that someone will wait until their loved ones are not with them before they go. Just some thoughts.
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Benn2234 My thoughts and prayers are with you. Thank you for your post and the loving devotion to your wife. May God grant you and your wife His Peace.
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Praying for you benn.
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GOD WITH US
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Don't be afraid of the pain Benn. Cry it out. This may be the hardest thing you've ever done. But believe me, it's also the most beautiful. Relax and let her time come on her time table. You are one hell of a great husband!
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benn,
Do you believe in the afterlife (Heaven or another existence)?

I believe that, at our death, we will join our loved ones. There will be a temporary absence when one leaves before the other but Heaven is for eternity. I believe God meant us to be together always. The hard part is that, during the separation, we can't communicate with them. That's where trust comes in. Trust that your wife's soul will be well taken care of in your brief separation.

I pray for God's loving comfort to help you let her go, then may He surround you with His love during this difficult time.

I can see your pain. I wish there was something else I could say to make you feel better. (((Big hugs))) to you.
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I love her so much I'm doing all that but it just hurts inside
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Oh, Benn, I am so sorry you have to go through this. Have you told your wife it's ok for her to go? Be sure you tell her that. During my mom's last day, I played music she loved, talked to her, held her hand, sang to her and told her what a great mom she'd been. I'm sure your wife would like similar soothing words and music if she likes music. It's so hard, I know. {{{Hugs}}}
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Just me and my loving wife it hurts
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Benn,
I'm so sorry for you and your wife. It sounds like the end is near (within days). It is amazing how long someone can survive without food.

By any chance, is she waiting for a family member or friend to arrive at your house? That is not unusual for a dying patient to "wait" to see or hear from someone close, then pass.

If I were you, I would spend her last days making her as comfortable as possible. Reassure her that you are there and love her. Holding hands can be comforting. Sometimes, soft music and soft lighting can be calming. I know how hard it is, as I was a hospice nurse.

God bless you both at this difficult time.
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