No one in the family wants to consider home health care now. I am the farthest thing one could ever define as a domineering husband. My wife and I have always maintained a 50-50 relationship in all decisions. We cannot now. I foolishly try to talk to her because that is what I have always done. I try to tell her that I can help her if she will listen to me and do what I say. This is useless, as she cannot understand a word I am saying and will forget the entire conversation within a few minutes of having it. She has also lost most of her communication capabilities. In MOST cases, she just strings unrelated words together. She often tells me about people with whom she has spoken in our house ... people who do not exist. Today, she has a very bad cold. She will take the medicine I give her, but when I told her that the steam from a hot shower would help her congestion, she rejects the idea. She has eaten very little in two days, but rejects my offers of any kind of food. Her daughter told her to take liquids. She does not remember that, and when I remind her of what her daughter suggested, she rejects that. She can become physical, throwing things. I have told her that I love her and that, if she will just let me lead her, she can have a good life here at home. No logic penetrates. I must get her to do the things that will sustain her. How do I do that?