Hello! My wife’s mother was officially diagnosed with dementia in July (Oct as of this post), but the drop off in her abilities has been drastic over the last year. A recent MRI showed vascular issues as well as shrinkage in the frontal lobe and the hippocampus. An EEG also revealed her brainwaves are much slower than they should be for her age (73). Her driving privileges were recently taken away, but she asserts that she is absolutely fine despite that and despite me handling all of her meds, finances, health needs, insurance and everything else. I’m her primary caregiver, and my family (wife, a newborn and a kindergartner) live in one unit of a townhouse while mom lives in the other unit. She is able to use her phone, but she comes to our unit at least a dozen times a day confused about something or needing an explanation or just to vent anger about something. She has a companion caregiver who comes by for a few hours a week for outings and help with errands, and while the reports back on how things go are positive, mom complains about doing them. My wife and I don’t have any concerns about her safety; she hasn’t fallen and doesn’t have any hygiene issues or problems feeding herself, but we are finding it harder and harder to care for her given that we have a newborn and a child doing kindergarten at home. Understandably our mom has completely lost sight of boundaries, and can’t remember discussions about finding a time to come by for help and gets mad when we try to talk about them. We want to help, but the reality is we can’t all the time, especially not with the needs of our kids right now. The thing that is confusing to us is how to get the help she needs. She isn’t a danger to herself, but do we need to look into a memory care facility for her? Do we need a live-in caregiver even though she might not need the constant care? We’re in a weird spot where we realize we can’t help as much as we want and as much as she needs, but she might not be in a place where a facility is appropriate. If anyone has any thoughts on where we are we’d love to hear ideas. And if I can clarify anything about the situation, more than happy to. Thanks!