My father-in-law is a successful farmer and can afford to pay for full-time in-home care. He is not able to live by himself but requires someone to cook, clean, wash, and transport him where he needs to go. My wife and I are not financially independent so we need to continue to have compensation coming in to pay bills and save for children's weddings, trips to see our children (who live 10 hours away), and other cost of living expenses. We have approached him and two of my wife's siblings about compensation and they accused us of being greedy, dishonoring, and taking advantage of the live-in situation because my father-in-law provides room and board for us. My wife and I do not feel the live-in situation is compensation because my father-in-law would have to provide for the expenses of a home if he were going to live in his house whether we were the caregivers or someone else were providing care. .I am very disheartened with this response and it affects my attitude when providing care. I have broken off relationships with my wife's siblings unless joint care giving decisions are necessary because of their perspective toward my wife and me. Please give me your https://www.agingcare.com/questions/147841/viewer.htmperspective on whether my wife and I should expect compensation for this full time care or if we are not being realistic in your opinion.