My uncle died three months after my dad did. My uncle had hired a live in caregiver who became kind of his girlfriend. He didn’t leave her anything but she’s refusing to leave. Fortunately, his son is a lawyer, but it will probably take months and or lots of go-away money.
Im not trying to be rude but it’s a prime incentive for any indy, especiallly, who takes on live in or anywhere near that. They start by accepting gifts they’d get fired for if they worked for a facility or agency, they may get dad to change his documents or persuade him he’s in love.
My ys is gonna live with mom and get more of the house for improving it. My mom is 87 and still has all her adls but I can foresee an aide coming on later who speaks moms native language which she never taught us. She’ll be literally on top of the aides, daily.
Technically, they do not, but a facility or agency will be more incented to avoid elder abuse and family issues by discouraging gifting to staff with or without sex, let alone that sex would also be a firing offense.
What happened when your uncle’s son asked the woman to leave?
I know here in New Orleans there are squatters rights.
There were people who evacuated hurricane Katrina and when they were finally able to get back to the city, there had been people living in their homes. People were desperate for shelter.
This happened to my cousin. A couple was living in her house. It was a mess. They stole valuable items. There was evidence of drugs being used in her house.
People who tragically died in the storm had people in their homes. Some started making renovations on the homes and legally they were allowed to stay. The family couldn’t kick them out.
These situations become very messy. No one could have moved into my mom’s house. She had nine feet of water. Fortunately, our home didn’t flood. We had wind damage but no water.
Cleary, she’s going to try to take advantage of the family.
I will say this, if the old man sincerely loved her then he would have placed her in his will. He didn’t give her the house! They may have formed a bond but it certainly wasn’t genuine love.
Does this ever happen with male caregivers and older women?
My next door neighbor on my left almost lost her inheritance over the issue above. It was complicated, just as that of the in laws and now uncles estate.
Just because a caregiver does her job does not make her family, yet that’s their thing, to get the elder to think they’re part of the family when they’ve only been on the scene a couple years
Sadly, Peggy has seen quite a few of these people!
It’s always smart to have everything spelled out ahead of time.
I agree that a caregiver should always have a backup plan.
Especially since they have no way of knowing how long their position with their client will last.
How sad that your uncle’s son has to pay out of pocket to evict this woman. Does she feel entitled because she had a relationship with your uncle?
Laws can be so complicated at times. I bet the son has felt like going there and physically throwing her out but I suppose he can’t legally do that.
So smart of you to be thinking ahead for your mom.