How long were you and Charlie married/partners? How was your relationship with his kids? How are they shutting you out?
Second marriages seem to be a hard thing on this forum. I think if you help raise the kids you maybe more excepted. But when you marry after the kids are adults its different. The kids don't react to you the same way. You not a stepmother your "his wife". So sorry they are putting you thru this. But remember, what goes around comes around.
We had a woman at Church who married a widower. His family excepted her with open arms. She and husband made a beautiful pair. You could tell they loved each other. Then he got Parkinsons and she was his Caregiver. Lost touch because of caring for my Mom but she did message me about NHs. He passed a yr or so ago. I was talking to her SIL and he told me she backed away from the family. That she didn't even sit with them at Church.
I am very very sorry for your loss. I am afraid we don't know Charlie's kids, so can't guess at what they are up to or why. I sure do wish you the best ongoing, and am so sorry for your grief.
I’m sorry for your loss. I think I’m fixing to face the same problem with my husband’s family. Which I’m going to feel bad about it but I’m not going to worry about it. I will know I’ve done my best and that’s all I can do. May God give you peace to deal with all the situations in your family.
I'm so sorry for your pain! Perhaps you remind them of your beloved Charlie! Perhaps one of them is spreading lies about you! I am sorry for your loss! I wish I could do something to help you!
Second marriages seem to be a hard thing on this forum. I think if you help raise the kids you maybe more excepted. But when you marry after the kids are adults its different. The kids don't react to you the same way. You not a stepmother your "his wife". So sorry they are putting you thru this. But remember, what goes around comes around.
We had a woman at Church who married a widower. His family excepted her with open arms. She and husband made a beautiful pair. You could tell they loved each other. Then he got Parkinsons and she was his Caregiver. Lost touch because of caring for my Mom but she did message me about NHs. He passed a yr or so ago. I was talking to her SIL and he told me she backed away from the family. That she didn't even sit with them at Church.
Please remember that he will live in your heart forever.
I am sorry that your relationship wasn’t better with his children.
Maybe they saw you as a threat or felt that they would be betraying their mom. Who knows?
May God give you peace to deal with all the situations in your family.