He has severe dementia, Alzheimers, and Parkinsons. I am secondary Med POA. My Dad has more than sufficient resources to pay for his care, but they are controlled by my stepmother. She has decided she does not want to pay for the sitters any longer, though there is money enough to pay for them for at least 5 years at the current rate.
I got Dad on Hospice, but Hospice dropped him when I sent my stepmom legal notice to keep the sitters. Hospice Dr didn't want to be involved but his team agreed Dad needed the sitters. Hospice has taken their wheelchair away and the hospice meds they had Dad on.
The sitters provide Dad the ability to walk, stand up and sit down without falling, go to the bathroom instead of just using the diaper, keep him clean, choose what he wants to eat instead of just being served food. He can't answer the phone by himself and has no understanding of what the nurse call button is for much less how to use it.
My stepmother never goes to see my Dad and has denied me access to even his medical records to help him. I see him at least 5 times a week EVERY week and call him every 3 or 4 hours. Stepmom doesn't call him on the phone, and rarely goes to visit. She has given her daughter fiduciary POA over them both my Dad and stepmom because step-mom can no longer do it herself. The sitters have been cancelled as of midnight tonight. They will have to leave in the middle of the night when he is most confused and asleep. (If I could pay out of pocket I would.)
Does anyone see problems here? I am having a hard time getting anyone to listen. I have called lawyers, Adult Protective Services, DADS, the nursing home corporate offices. I have filed report after report but nothing is done because Dad is "deemed safe since he is in a nursing home." However, the nursing home is severely short-staffed and they themselves were the ones who insisted we hire the 24/7 sitters.
I need help badly. If I could pay out of pocket I would.