Age 81No kids of her own. We’ve never had a closer relationship but since dad died, I call several times a week to check on her. She is lonely, depressed, threatens suicide. Her short term memory is gone. Sometimes hallucinates. Lives on her own and does not want to move anywhere. Lives out of state from me. I worry about her ability to take care of herself. Does not accept help from others.
I, personally, would not call this woman my stepmother since she had nothing to do with raising me. I would call her my father's wife when talking to APS or 911. IMO, stepmother gives the impression of closeness and you say there is none between you. Make sure if you do talk to anyone, that you are clear you will not take on her care, you are just concerned.