He didn't have anyone, a doctor or tester, to decide if she was mentally able to understand what she was signing. I know she wasn't because she was writing her only daughter out of the will. I did more care-giving to my family members than all 4 siblings combined. The siblings want me to leave it alone however he has smeared my name to MY side of the family. People don't know what he did to me. He took advantage of the fact that the one thing I was a criminal for , I got sick. I have 8 autoimmune diseases. Specifically b/c my mother & stepf saved all HER money for the cabin. He even put in that he was selling my childhood home, that I let my brother live in b/c he was going through a divorce. I hide when I am sick or hurt. I was abused as a child and my stepfather was one of the abusers.
You should now move on with your own life. Get a therapist to help you comb through what current aspects of your life are affected by your abuse as a child, and how to move past this and forward for your own life. Your health and your future life depends upon this. You will only live a life of torment if you worry about what money you will be left when an elder dies. Just assume you will not get a penny and move on. As to caregiving, don't give care to abusive people. Stay out of their way and avoid them.
I really suggest therapy to you. The problems you have are way beyond any help that a Forum can provide you. I am so sorry for your pain and I wish you the very best going forward.
Can you give a few more details on the situation? I realize that your stepdad is ‘mean’ as you described, but what brought on this drastic change in your mom’s will?
What an awful situation for you, especially since you are experiencing your own health issues. Does he feel like you abandoned them in their time of need? You did all you could out of the kindness of your heart but no one can remain caregiving if they are sick themselves.
I certainly hope that you are able to resolve this issue peacefully. Of course, you do not have to have any type of relationship with your stepfather. Your mom is your family and I know that you want your mom’s will to be carried out as she desired it to be.