He was helping me to cut a tree ( which I advised against) and became paralyzed, He became paralyzed from the waist down. I am taking him in on a temporary basis. He has a controlling personality and continues to do this now. I do want to help him, we have been together for forty years but he does not seem to move forward. For example he is paralyzed from the stomach down and can move things with his arms. When paper towels are not within the right location he asks me to get them (they are within reach) he just needs to wheel over to get them. I have used strategies of telling him it is good exercise for his arms to get them. He does that for a while but resorts to having me do these things. My life has changed as well. I am cooking for him, buying things for him, cleaning his private parts, and helping him with transfers from the wheelchair. I have to schedule my time around his needs and don't have many social activities anymore. Please help me to balance this approach to my life.