My mother will be 92 in December. I work part time. Hubby works full time. I have no sibling support. One daughter who is local, works full time has offered to help. My mother is fairly “independent” with mobility issues (fall risk /uses walker). Mother takes care of all of her medications. We are moving her in due to Covid- 19 concerns for the winter. Planning on moving her in by Thanksgiving. Any helpful advice would be greatly appreciated. Thank you.
Also, how is your daughter who works full time intending to 'help'? I am an only child and my 2 children say all the time how they'll help out with grandma and never do. They visit once in a blue moon and call about once a month. As much as they know it will help ME if they call and visit, they still don't do it b/c they work full time and just don't put it on their 'to-do' lists.
Who will be with your mother while you and DH are working? What are the precautions you've taken like a Life Line in case she falls? Cameras? Have you put in shower rails for safety in her bathroom? Will her walker be able to glide over carpets or floors in your home easily? Are there trip hazards like throw rugs to pull up?
Anyway, I'd look into inviting an occupational therapist over to your home to help you figure out how to make it handicap accessible for your mothers arrival, should you move forward with the decision. Also keep in mind that she will probably never leave...........one fall or one illness and that will make her weaker and very unlikely to want to move again. Just the realities you should know and keep in mind when making such a big decision that will affect you and your husband's lives.
Good luck!