After 2 years in the nursing home, I found Freedom. I'm 49 years old. She got their home, rent house, furniture and PICTURES. I didn't get anything. What should I do?
Just a thought from someone who is not an expert - It is my understanding that if you have been in a NH for 2 years and that was paid by medicaid then possibly it wouldn't have been in your best interest to receive a chunk of money from your parent's home or their estate, medicaid would have been withdrawn and you would have been expected you to use those funds for your care. Your parent's care would also have to have been paid for in some way so unless they had/have considerable assets the home is likely an asset needed for their care.
BTW, congratulations on regaining your health and independence!!
You say that your sister put your Mom and Dad in a Nursing Home. Are they still there? Is your Sister their POA? Are your parents incapable of making their own decisions and caring for themselves now? If that is the case, then I think she is doing the right thing. You say the sister "got their home". If they are on the deed of the home, your sister as POA cannot "get the home". If they are passed now and left a will then the sister, I assume the executor, will have to distribute the assets as your parents wished after any State or Federal aid to the parents for their care is reimbursed. You should see the advice of an attorney if you have questions regarding your own situation. I wish you the best of luck and hope you'll update us if you find help for your situation. If sister has been your POA the attorney will be able to ask her for detailed explanations of expenditures on your behalf.
1. Are your parents still living? What are your specific concerns with your sister's action for your parents? (And, BTW, a POA doesn't create power OVER anyone; it allows the designated individual to act ON BEHALF of someone).
2. Apparently you had some significant residual effects after your stroke. Perhaps your sister really was acting in and on your behalf? Are you dissatisfied with that decision?
3. Or is it that apparently your sister was able to take over your parents' possession? Is that the basic issue here?
More information is needed on the situation and specifically what you want now in order to give you more advice. If you parents died and left their possessions to your sister, she was apparently merely acting on that bequest. If she sold their possessions and used the funds for their care, that's a different story entirely. Were either of your parents able to care for themselves? What kind of limitations did they have?
If you feel left out or cheated b/c your sister "got" your parents' assets, that really first of all turns on whether or not they're still alive, and if not, what their will or trust provided.
That's part of why we need to know more about this situation to make suggestions.
BTW, congratulations on regaining your health and independence!!
You should see the advice of an attorney if you have questions regarding your own situation. I wish you the best of luck and hope you'll update us if you find help for your situation. If sister has been your POA the attorney will be able to ask her for detailed explanations of expenditures on your behalf.
1. Are your parents still living? What are your specific concerns with your sister's action for your parents? (And, BTW, a POA doesn't create power OVER anyone; it allows the designated individual to act ON BEHALF of someone).
2. Apparently you had some significant residual effects after your stroke. Perhaps your sister really was acting in and on your behalf? Are you dissatisfied with that decision?
3. Or is it that apparently your sister was able to take over your parents' possession? Is that the basic issue here?
More information is needed on the situation and specifically what you want now in order to give you more advice. If you parents died and left their possessions to your sister, she was apparently merely acting on that bequest. If she sold their possessions and used the funds for their care, that's a different story entirely. Were either of your parents able to care for themselves? What kind of limitations did they have?
If you feel left out or cheated b/c your sister "got" your parents' assets, that really first of all turns on whether or not they're still alive, and if not, what their will or trust provided.
That's part of why we need to know more about this situation to make suggestions.