Trying to get condensed as much as possible: My sister and I have pretty much taken care of our mother for the last 10 years since our father passed away. Not physical care but more emotional care and support as she lived on her own. Our mother was recently diagnosed with diabetes and she's not taking care of herself. My sister and I have been discussing food options with her but she says she's not hungry, she won't eat and has lost weight. I should also add that she met a man on OurTime about 2 years ago and they are living together. We really don't know much about this man so my sister and I have concerns that he could possibly be taking advantage of her by living in her house, barely paying rent, not paying for groceries and certainly not helping out with the cooking. We have 2 brothers that are VERY disconnected, and honestly, they do not share our concerns. The 4 of us siblings and spouses met for breakfast and it was decided that my oldest brother and my sister-in-law would visit mom...which is extremely rare and I'm being kind! Well, they did and of course my mother said quite a few hurtful things about my sister and me. My mother continued to tell them that all we do is yell at her which is COMPLETELY untrue! Not sure if my brother and his wife believe us....I would like to address this situation with my mother as this really hurts my feelings and my sisters as well. We're disappointed she would say those things and I would like her to know what my sister-in-law told me but I don't believe that's the route to go. My sister and I need a mental break from our mother because this is extremely hurtful and incorrect. And, she has been pitting all of us against each other for years by talking about everyone behind their back and venting to the others. How do I separate myself and have my brothers (and sister-in-law) pick up the slack?