My Mom had her license revoked and soon thereafter my sister's car "died". She was having a lot of financial problems, (but lives in a very affluent area) and did not have any money to buy or credit to finance a new car. My mom is deep into her disease, with her long term memory still intact, but has very little short term memory. She has her POA filed with her Attorney, with both of us being in charge of her financial decisions, and me appointed as medical decisions.
The big problem is she did not trust my sister, and added me to the will to be in charge of her money, and if this had been 5 years ago, would not have made this choice to give her her car. It was almost brance new, as my mother didn't drive very much (She's now 88 and bought the car when she was 78). My sister did not tell me until after she changed the name on the car and put her insurance on it, that she had accepted this car as a gift, after asking my Mom for it. I expressed my concern with this to her, and told her that she knew our mother had Alzheimer's and that anything of value should have been reviewed with me as well. She brushed it off, as it being an issue between my mom and her, and defended her decision saying she told me she was "discussing options" with my mom. But this raised a lot of red flags and now my mom is relying heavily upon her for financial decisions, and she is not receptive to obtaining an attorney to represent us in case the POA needs to be in place. I'm trying to keep the communication friendly, but is accepting this car legal for her to do knowing that my mother had Alzheimer's? (She was part of us frantically getting her lack of medical capacity signed by her physician and filed with my Mom's attorney soon after her diagnosis to protect her Will and assets.) And, should the car value be deducted from her inheritance? My mom has 4 grandkids and 3 daughters, and while she has money, she is using up her savings to pay for her caretaker. So it is not a bottomless well, and I just feel she "pulled one over" on me, and took advantage of my mom...even if she did need the car. My mom was emphatic about her not getting near certain funds, and not giving her any more money as she gave her a lot of money to start a business which went belly up, and she almost lost her very expensive house due to bad business decisions. And, now, of course, my mom doesn't remember that. I am frustrated that because of proximity, I cannot be over there as much as possible, and that she often fields the caretakers questions and concerns without letting me know until afterwards.
How do I protect my Mom from this happening again?