I am a widow who after care giving my husband for 5 years while undergoing chemo, began care giving for my mother who has dementia. I had to pack up my home, bring it up to par i.e. painting plastering etc , etc., to lease it out. I moved in with mother as she will not budge from her home. I have been constantly attacked by sister and niece, who even filed a complaint with Adult Protective Service, against me, was unsubstantiated.
I have been living with her one year, previously I had been traveling back and forth from my home 120 miles away. Sister calls and tells her to watch out for me I will hurt her, I will rob her etc. etc. In the meantime in 1 1/2 years she has spent exactly 3 1/2 hours with mother, sister lives in Hawaii, we live in New Mexico. In 3 years she has seen her 10 days. After the calls mother is angry, confused and starts accusing me of anything. I have no respite, no social life as I do not know people here, I am here 24/7.
I have High blood pressure, Diabetes, and have been a walking time bomb with blood pressure sky rocketing every day. started tests, ct scan, biopsy as I wake up vomiting every morning I am in pain, I am a mess. My mind is ready to explode.
I can't care for mother any longer or I will surely have a stroke or heart attack, there will be no one here to care for her or my cats and it will be a disaster. Mother's house was deeded to me by mother, for taking care of her. I now need to take a mortgage as I have used all my savings, unable to work taking care of her, and I know the sister is going to raise hell. I have durable POA. Deed is recorded. I also need to put mom in a safe situation. Is it possible for her to create more trouble?