Dysfunctional family situation, my brother always a bully with a violent temper and my parents pretty helpless to handle him. I left the house when I was 17 to get away from it! He didn't finish high school, fathered a child he never saw or supported, runs autoparts business and uses their backyard, garage and two rooms of their house for storage. He has never paid rent and my mom isn't even sure if he collects disability (I think he does). In this family, I'm the odd one: went to college and grad school, have always worked and been independent. I have never been estranged from my parents, but the situation with my brother has always inhibited our relationship (even when they would come to visit me at college it was always fast trips because they were uncomfortable leaving their house with him in it for more than a few days). And now when I visit them I stay in a hotel because there is no room in their 4 bedroom house for me and my family. My parents have loaned him money despite his tendency to lose it all on speculative business deals. He has had court proceedings against him for failure to pay credit card debt. He registers cars that he restores in my parents' names. He has occasional outbursts that have my parents afraid to confront him about anything, and on one of my recent visits he physically threatened me. He owns many guns and so I also have concerns about the safety of the situation. He takes them to dr. visits and does some maintenance on their house, which is good, but because he is so dependent on them financially I think there is serious potential for abuse. He had a will done using an attorney who had purchased a car from him and my mom told me that some of the provisions "surprised" her. So I researched some estate planners after talking with her about the need for a trust, but my parents chose not to pursue this mainly for fear of upsetting my brother. They eventually had one done with a planner associated with their tax preparer, and my mom keeps telling me she wants me to review, but when I visit she doesn't want to bring it out when my brother is there (and he is always there). Last year I did successfully convince them to use their long-term care insurance (Cal-PERS) to get some part-time help - that took a LOT of discussion because my brother wanted them to hire his girlfriend (who also lives with her mother and is often unemployed). Basically, I am struggling with how to deal with my "outsider" status in this family (emotional as well as physical distance ~500 miles) and also concern for their financial future. Should I call for an anonymous APS visit? Should I ask to accompany them to their doctors on my next visit to share my concerns? One friend suggested I have an independent meeting with the financial firm that did their trust, to make them aware of my brother's dependency. They granted me health POA long ago and my mom indicated she wanted me to be executor, but in the will my brother engineered, he is the executor. I've asked my mom about Financial POA but don't get a straight answer so I suspect he has that at this point. I think there are limits on what I can do, given their willingness to support him all these years. But I'd like to protect them if I can. Any advice is appreciated - thank you!