My mother's guardian is putting barriers on me visiting my mother who is in the active stages of dying per her hospice nurse.
My parents were appointed a guardian one year ago and she immediately placed them in a nursing home and sold their home. My father died 3 months later and now 10 months later my mother is dieing and is in the active stages of dieing per her hospice nurse. I admit my past isn't that great and I was an addict. I'm 70 days clean and living in a sober living home doing good. The guardian would never let me visit unless she was present. Now the guardian said I have to wait 4 more days to visit my mother because she has to be there and she's busy and my family knows my mother won't make it that long . This is just another barrier the guardian has put on me and I feel she's doing it because we don't get along and I never agreed with the things she did like selling my parents home immediately and making an 80 grand profit, changing my parents code status to a no code and putting them in a nursing care facility that doesn't administer the hydrocortisone shot my father needed when he went into adrenal crisis. What are my rights on seeing my mother immediately?!
Having a DNR status is the standard and humane thing to do for frail elders since CPR is brutal and painful when bones are broken. Hospice does allow for comfort care in nursing homes, so I do hope your dear mom is being kept pain and anxiety free as she goes thru the end of life process.
Congrats on your 70 days of sobriety! I suggest you wait the 4 days to see your mom or contact an attorney immediately. If the guardian must be present for you to visit, however, I don't know that much can be done. Perhaps the atty will have ideas that I know nothing about, though, being a layperson.
I'm so sorry you're in such a position and pray you do get the chance to see mom and spend time with her soon. Best of luck and condolences on your upcoming loss.
They were appointed a guardian so that someone could manage their care and help protect them. They were moved to a facility because what did you think? That the guardian was going to provide hands-on care for 2 people? The guardian sold the home to pay for the care of 2 people in a facility. This is 100% reasonable and expected. People who care for their adult parents do this all the time.
"What are my rights on seeing my mother immediately?!"
I would appeal to the organization that provides your Mom's guardian stating that hospice says she is actively dying. You don't have any "rights" to have access to your Mom - that's just how the law works for all of us.
We are only getting your side of the story so who can know why the guardian feels that your visits should be supervised. I'm happy for your sobriety, but perhaps your addiction history is unfortunately casting a shadow over your relationships.
You don't seem to understand that by law, the guardian has all the power to make decisions in your Mom's best interests, and it's not about what you think the guardian should be doing. This includes changing them to DNR.
If you think there was abuse regarding your Father's management and care, then you bring your evidence to an elder law attorney to discuss if you have a case.
Please continue to protect your sobriety and I wish you 100% success in it.