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My mother will need help finding things when my father passes away, I live out of State who should I find to help me until I get there? She will need help locating documents and getting rid of things. Who can I hire to help until I get there?

I asked my attorney who would manage my affairs if I'm incapable and my chosen POA predeceases me (I haven't designated an alternate POA because there isn't any family member that I consider capable, and my friends are too old). My attorney said that she would be, so we arranged it that way. I trust her, so I think she's the best choice. I live in a retirement community, and my attorney said that many people here have no one else and that she serves for them.

I'd suggest that you find a good attorney to be your boots on the ground where your parents live. You and mom will have enough to worry about as you manage your grief. My sincere condolences on your coming loss.
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What kind of documents do you feel Mom will need? If Dad is still alive, its up to him to get important papers together and put them where they will easily be found. When my Mom passed, I had used her money for a prepaid funeral. The funeral home took care of everything. The Will cannot be probated until about 10 days after death, so no hurry there. Social Security is made aware of the death by the funeral home. But Mom will need to contact them about Dads SS now going to her. Its not automatic. If Dad gets a pension, those handling his pension need to be notified.

How long is it going to take you to get there that Mom needs paperwork?
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I think that you will need to plan trips there now that your parents are failing. One before Dad passes and more than one after. If there is no one there you need to know, yourself, where documents are. You probably should have BOTH parents now managed by a Licensed Fiduciary, which would make things ever so much easier when one or the other of them passes. Best of luck.
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This is a good lesson to all reading this that all important documents and their whereabouts should be shared with all trusted family members, especially a spouse, so they're not left in the dark after ones death.

I would personally just have your mother hang tight until you get there, unless you have other trusted family members nearby.
I'm sorry that you're losing your father.
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