Sorry,this is the second question of mine today but I do need help. My mother (93 years old) has sleep apnea, not dementia, but the nursing home says otherwise. My mother has been depressed and crying to come home. She asks me every time I see her. She is in her right mind and misses watching tv together and playing board games and the whole entire being at home with family thing. I'm her only family. The nursing home implies she'll be living there probally all her life. If my mother did not have her mental faculties intact I could easier overlook her pleading, but she's completely sane and level headed,no dementia or Alzheimer's. It tears me apart to look at her and say no. She knows I want her back home. I don't know what her condition is but she went in the hospital for a retracted knee and UTI. The state claims they're doing some kind of 'lifting' of her that she cannot get living at home. Maybe they're lifting her to change her diapers, I don't know. Even the state couldn't explain it to me. The woman from the state says she needs 24/7 care because she's bedridden and insists it's care she will not get at home. I only know that I want her home and she hates that place and wants to come home to where everything is familiar and homey. How can the state force her to live their where she's so unhappy? It's so cold and 'facility like' at that place. Not much different than a hospital. She has NONE of the freedoms and choices of entertainment that she has at home, she loves her tv shows and sitting on the patio. She misses her home...period. Is there any possibility that a patient can get the inpatient help they need at home and completely through Medicare or Medicaid. Is relying on nursing homes the best we got?