Hi there, my mother is 74 and recovering well physically from a CVA in late June. However, her cognitive function as been affected by the stroke and she is experiencing moderate to severe memory loss, inability to reason and making decisions that compromise her safety, and our property. She has lived with my husband and I for nearly 6 years under better, but still stressful circumstances. She is able to do her ADL cares, but needs prompting to eat, take her meds and stay hydrated. She also suffers from type II diabetes and kidney issues. We are tired and would love to have our home back, but worried she would be unable to care for herself properly in her own apartment. We live in California and Assisted living is extremely expensive! What to do? Maybe she would be ok on her own? Help!
I suppose a facility would be best in order to have 24/7 care for her. Otherwise what choice do you have other than hiring caregivers to stay with her which would become quite expensive.
I hope you find the solution that is best for everyone. Good luck in being able to get her to cooperate. If not, simply tell her there are limited options.
She may have to apply for Medicaid and move into a facility since assisted living is above her budget.
Would she qualify for veteran benefits? Was her spouse a veteran that served during war time? They may be able to offer financial assistance and then she can possibly afford an assisted living facility.
Someone told me, you just have to let them go if that is what they want. The more you try to talk someone with cognitive issues out of living alone the more the resist and the more they showtime with people who encourage them to do what they want to do.
Meanwhile, it's almost an oxymoron for them to live independently if they are having help getting to that point and having help maintaining that independence. Just my opinion.
Hope it all works out for you.