My mother is 81 and was moved to rehab yesterday after her second hip surgery (after she fell). She has very poor vision from macular degeneration, and her doc told her, "no more driving." Her eye doc told her to use readers and magnifying tools (we have bought her many types, but she keeps "losing them"), but she complains that "they don't work." She rudely tells me, my sister, and healthcare help to do what we believe she could do herself if she would lift a finger to try. I think we are enabling her, and think we ought to simply say, "I will not do that, because that is something you can do if you put forth an effort to do so." I think she is still in denial of her vision loss (which did occur rather quickly), and will not take responsibility to avail herself of the vision aids. She becomes quite nasty when my sister and I try to help her help herself. She is non-compliant and even belligerent at times, condescending, narcissistic, histrionic, and has some mild dementia. We need helpful suggestions, please. She is able to somehow see well enough to text and call friends, and operate her beloved TV. Her vision loss is inconsistent; therefore, it is difficult to know when to help and when to be tough and tell her she has to figure it out on her own. We are dealing with a couple of other issues with her, but I thought I'd better start with this one. Please help.