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My mother and I have a joint bank account. Should I take out all (a very small amount) of the money?
All of her bills are put on her credit card, but we depend on her Social Security to pay that bill. Since she won't get SS in December, there won't be enough money to cover the payment. Should I contact the credit card company to tell them she passed? One of the charges is monthly payments to the hospital. Should I contact the hospital?
Her funeral expenses are pre-paid and her life insurance policy is only for $1,000. It's not nearly enough to cover her debts.
I've heard that when someone dies, the estate, the $1,000, needs to go toward debts, then the companies can not demand the balance. I don't have much money and can't afford to pay her debts.
I know I've been rambling and in the past when I've read questions on this forum I know the answer. Today my mind is not working right.
Thank you all for your help.

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First - get as many Death Certificates (originals) as possible. 10 is not too many. Second - are you her POA or are you legally responsible for any of her bills? If not, it doesn't look like you need to worry. If you are, contact all of her creditors, including Social Security, as soon as possible. Prepare yourself for letters and phone calls demanding payment. Third - call the bank immediately and close the account.
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We lost Mom and since there were 6 adult kids we thought we would have to pay her bills which we did for 1 or 2 mos. before someone told us we weren't responsible. Her will said bills were to be paid but that was not enforced since she left only a few hundred dollars. Sorry for your loss.
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Good thing you notified Social Security. You are not legally responsible for any of her debts that are in her name alone. Tell the hospital she has passed away, and does not have enough money to repay. Notify her other creditors also.
Have her name taken off you bank accounts. Consider contacting an accountant or CPA to set up a payment plan for any joint debts that you may also be responsible for.
I am sorry she has passed away. I lost my mom about 9 years ago, so I have been there.
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I would NOT completely close out the joint bank account because if you get a refund check from anyone, including car insurance or any company, you want to be able to deposit that check into that account. It was a real nightmare for a neighbor of mine when she closed out her joint account with her husband after her husband passed away and she received $1000 check in his name and it took months to get it straightened out to where she could actually are use that money
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Ricky6 Nov 2021
I agree that PJsummer should not close the joint bank account. However, if there is a check issued to her mother I believe she still needs to get a Small Estate Affidavit executed. The forms are free on the interest, just be sure it is the form for your State of Residence.
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Pjsummer: Imho, the money in the joint bank account is rightfully your's as you hold it jointly with your late mother. Perhaps you may want to retain an elder law attorney, but you are not responsible for her debts. I am sorry for your loss and send condolences.
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So, this is just about death certificates. And, I am so sorry for your loss, dear. Death certificates, when given as evidence, must be certified/notarized. Yes, you will have to pay for each one separately, and they, although not expensive, are not inexpensive, either. I mean, they cost money, right, something that is likely at this time in short supply. But do find the money to get several copies right off the bat. As you learn more about what each financial institution needs, you can get more, but get several certified copies right off the bat. At least the first should go to the life insurance agency, if she has a policy(s). Sending good energy your way. I appreciate your post. It is helpful to me, too.
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I am so sorry about your mother, PJ. Please take care of yourself!

One thing I haven't seen on here, is that there are death certificates with and without cause. Some require receiving one or the other. (When my husband passed away many years ago, I remember this particular thing. ). And you can obtain as a certified, stamped sealed copy or just a copy. Again, you will be told which is needed.

Also, if you are bombarded with collectors' calls, you can silence "spam calls" on your mobile phone. Or you could just simply silence your phone if the rings jar your nerves and check occasionally for any calls that go to voicemail.
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Here's a good list from AARP...

https://www.aarp.org/home-family/friends-family/info-2020/when-loved-one-dies-checklist.html
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This is a very complex situation and many things to do so you don't get into trouble. Rather than me sitting here and advising you, I think you should find an eldercare attorney who will give you one hour free consultation to steer you in the right direction. Also advise Social Security, the credit card companies and other creditors she has passed. I would also see what the funeral director says in terms of advice. But you need to have a pro step in and talk with you what you have to do - it is just too complicated.
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I'm sorry for your loss.

The first thing that *I* did about my mom's estate was to make an appointment with her CPA. Since she had her assets set up in a trust, I knew I didn't need to go through the probate process; her CPA was really an invaluable source of information for me. He set up the new federal tax ID number I needed, and told me which questions to ask when I called mom's various financial institutions.

If you or your mom had a regular CPA, I would reach out to him/her with any questions; they would likely be able to guide you as to whether or not you need to open probate, etc. And the CPA was way cheaper than an estate lawyer would have been.

Insofar as the debts - as everyone else says, if the debts are solely in mom's name, then you are not responsible to repay. But you need to make very sure that you're not on any of the credit cards; and unfortunately, just because you don't have a card doesn't mean your mom didn't put you down on the application paperwork when she applied. This happened to someone I worked with; his (ex) wife put his name down on several applications as a responsible party without ever telling him OR getting a card in his name. When they divorced, the credit card debt was considered a "marital" debt even though he didn't know about the accounts. And his ex didn't use them for joint/household purchases, either; they were used for clothing, jewelry, and other items she bought for her boyfriend. If any cards say you're responsible, tell them you want to see a copy of the application with your name on it.

Good luck!
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Yes to closing the joint account. The money is that account is now yours.
1 - Get several copies of her death certificate. Many of her creditors will need a copy to stop hounding you for payments.

2 - Notify Social Security to stop sending her payments PRONTO.

3 - Use all her assets to pay off bills and then debts. If in doubt who to pay first, talk to a lawyer or CPA.

4 - When the money is gone, do not use your money to pay any remainder. Do not pay any attention to bill collection agencies.
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NinjaWarrior3 Nov 2021
This is very helpful.
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My sympathy for you in your time of loss. This is a time of confusion. Everyone's going to give you their opinion on what to do. Try not to share too many details with others.

You're doing well in knowing what is happening with her financial life.
I'm sure by now, you have done much of the immediate tasks, and may be in the middle of visitation and a funeral.

Take your time.

No one can take her assets without your permission and signature if you are on her accounts.

Take your time.

You will need to provide death certificates to all the places she has outstanding bills. Don't buy a ton of them from the funeral home, as many go to waste.

Leave all financial accounts as they are for the time being. Nothing is going to change overnight.

Then you can begin organizing her statements to see what is due.
Again, take your time.

Some decisions will depend on what state you're from.
Here in Michigan, I contacted her life insurance company first. You can then contact all medical groups, Doctor offices, Pharmacies to remove her from their auto-refills., Credit card companies-auto-payments, and anyone else you can think of to see if they need a death certificate. They will all tell you what is needed.
I didn't pay anyone else except the funeral home first.
The rest will come gradually. Just don't rush yourself.

Don't allow anyone to threaten or demand payment from you. You don't owe anything.

You are getting a lot of good information from this group already.

Take your time, don't rush yourself and make costly errors.

Hugs to you and good luck in the next few months.
Take care of yourself.
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Unless you have cosigned for some accounts or personally guaranteed payments, you won't be responsible. Uniform commercial code does not recognize any obligations by those who are not party to an agreement. If your name isn't on it, you can't be forced to pay. But DO NOT agree to pay, make payments or even one payment beyond what funds are available from her estate, small as it is. It is very doubtful that any creditors will pursue collection...squeezing blood from a rock as it were. My sister's caregiver, her son who passed away suddenly age 40 after years of drug use, theft of her savings and monthly retirement of about $3,000, had maxed out her credit cards as well. I get collection letters, offers on one to reduce the balance from $16,000 to $4,000 which if it were my debt I would accept but she has very little now that she is in assisted living. I have informed each creditor of her situation and gradually they stopped sending collection letters with the exception of one credit card. So I leave you with this, if you haven't signed for any of the debt, do not, DO NOT verbally agree or sign an agreement to make payments as it could make a connection to you for paying the debt. Your mother's estate must stand on its own.
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Myownlife Nov 2021
My mom is not doing so well right now, so I am paying extra attention to this thread. She has me listed as a "user" on her credit card account. Does this make me liable for that debt down the road ?
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Sorry for your loss.
I know what you're going through as my dad passed yesterday morning and I just don't want to think about any of it.
If the Bank Account is in both your names, you could remove the money and close the account.
I would start with Calling everyone letting them know she died and she won't be continuing paying any more monthly payments.
She only had a $1,000 in Death Benefits and that's not even enough to have the body picked up and Cremated.
Uneeds she has a house to put a Lien against, I doubt anyone will be pursuing what is owed.
I would write each person that is owed money and send them a copy of the death certificate.
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Isthisrealyreal Nov 2021
Bev, I am sorry for your loss.

May The Lord give you grieving mercies and comfort.
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I am very sorry for your mother's loss and pray for your comfort. No, you are not responsible for paying her bills, and please provide death certificate copies to your deceased mother's bank account and creditors with your explanation.
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You are not responsible for paying any bills.
I had to go get (5) death certificates because most places would not take a copy. That was a few hundred bucks (in Connecticut)
Then I had to mail that with a copy of my POA, to satisfy some of the fussier places.
You need to write an obituary so her death is posted. That’s another expense.
It’s a lot, so take it in small sections so you don’t get overwhelmed.
Hugs to you at this tough time.
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ddspalomino Nov 2021
In Michigan, I believe I paid $13 for each certificate.
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Sorry for your loss :( take a beat. You can't advise creditors or the bank or anyone else of her official passing without a death certificate. They will want it faxed or emailed.
I had to purchase a fax machine when my loved one passed away and I had to notify everyone. He owed everyone money. I ended up paying the landlord and said so sorry to everyone else because can't get money from nothing.
So hospital claims take over 30 days to process and they have programs for people who can't pay.
These are my opinions and not financial advice ;)
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I am so sorry for your loss. My mom passed in May.

First, take a breath. Set your goals of what to accomplish for the day, do that and stop. There are countless things to take care of, very few of which need to be done this second.

The day after my mom passed I called the funeral home from which we had purchased a burial account. They contacted social security who, in turn, contacted the bank.

I did not worry about bills until after the service. I wrote up a letter stating that my mother had passed, that she had no spouse and no estate and to please accept this declaration and a copy of her death certificate as notice of no further payment. I called the creditors and told them I would be sending this. A few took it over the phone, most said to send. Only one said it world not be accepted and her account would go into collections. After that I tackled the apartment, etc.

Keep in mind that there may be a few expenses not covered by the burial account, such as flowers and obituary. The life insurance money can be used towards that.

I very quickly received a tax form for my portion of our joint account. I also received an Estate search form (I live in PA) which I filed out, they researched, and sent back stating that there is no estate.

I hope some of this helps. It is a confusing time. Wishing you peace and healing.
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PJ, in my rush to tell you not to let the creditors trick you I forgot to tell you I am sorry for the loss of your Mom.
But once again, watch the creditors and don't get tricked. They will soon enough sell this worthless debt paper to "collectors" who pay pennies on the dollar hoping to collect from uninformed people. They will threaten you that YOU need to pay. You are not responsible for the debts of your Mom and that is what you need to tell them; repeat it and hang up. Don't let them trick you with "Well, if you send us 25.00 good faith we can work out a plan where you only pay a little of this debt". Remember that paying them with your name on a check will be further leverage for them to say you owe them as you paid them something. They will try to scare you. Don't let them. Not all are unscrupulous, but they can be tricky.
As to the death certificates I got 20 for mybrother and still have 19 of them left. Everyone just made a copy and handed me back the certificate original. I think you will do fine with 10. You can get more from public records if not. Everything seems to go from paper to digital these days and they don't seem to care overmuch about original death certificate.
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PJsummer Nov 2021
Thank you AlvaDeer.
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Once you get the death certificate, get the account put in your name alone, because the bank will put a hold on it. Social Security will notify them of the death, but they may also put a hold on any payments on the account, even if you were the one who wrote a check.

Shortly after Mom died in July, I took the DC to the local branch of my mom's bank and they made a copy but didn't forward it to her local branch. Somehow after writing more than $4,000 worth of checks that went through just fine, they decided to lock down the account last week and not pay a $140 check to my mom's gardener. I had to go through the whole death certificate thing again, fill out a new signature card, and make sure the branch by me sent everything to the branch my folks had used. It was far more complicated than it needed to be.
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I'm so sorry for your loss.

I agree hold onto the money. SS should have been notified of the death and usually sends you a letter stating so. They should also have notified the bank that they know she has passed., just in case a check she was not entitled to was sent. If that were to happen, SS would do a Reclaim; The bank would have to send back the money (to avoid trouble with the Govt). if there was not enough in the account, the bank would contact you to make up the difference. (I know this from experience since it happened when my mom passed. Her CC contacted me when there was not enough money in the account to cover the reclaim, and even put any money deposited into the Savings until the reclaim was covered. In her case the reclaim was covered, but they did not transfer the money to the checking account, by then an Estate Account, so any bill paid, the check bounced. Such incompetence, the account was closed)

The hospital should have been notified as well, since the SS# would come up deceased wherever it was used. If she has no Assets, (home, car, etc) only in her name, the creditors can't collect. You are not responsible for these debts. As has been mentioned, mail the creditors a copy of the Death Certificate. You should/may receive a letter back from them, usually saying sorry for your loss, and that unless there is probate, they won't collect and the account is closed.

Blessings to you.
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I am so sorry for your loss. May The Lord give you strength and wisdom during this difficult time.

A couple of things, if you are joint account holder then that money is legally yours, not part of her estate. If her life insurance has a named beneficiary, not part of her estate, it belongs to the named beneficiary.

I recommend going to your state attorney generals website and find out what the estate value is that requires probate. This varies state to state and can be 50k to 100k.

Notify the credit card that she is deceased. Get the bank notified and stop ALL auto withdrawals and auto payments. That should happened as soon as they are notified. Do this today. I did not need to provide a death certificate when I notified my dads bank the day he passed.

If she doesn't have any money, then there is nothing for her debts to be paid with.

I would not get an attorney involved for a few thousand dollars, you won't even have to do probate, just an affidavit that you are her legal next of kin and her estate was under whatever your state says is minimum, it's a form.

Her check for October is hers to keep and will be paid in November, after that, no more checks are hers and SSA will do a claw back and they will be brutal, so don't touch any payments after the month of November.

You got this, right now just breath and accept this great big warm hug.
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karenonthames Nov 2021
I agree with the sentiments here. I have just been going thru the same thing, and due to the fact that my name was on the checking account, i could move the money out as I wanted. No need to get an attorney involved unless there are complications to the will/property.

Social Security is only paid out if the person lived through the entire month. My mother died on 9/27 so since she didn't live the full month - we were not entitled to her social security.
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I agree with Alva that you should hold on to any money Mom has left.

Moms November check received is for October. That should not be taken back. If it is, fight it. This means check received in December would be Novembers check. Since Mom died in November and the first half, hopefully she will not receive that check. If she does, do not use it. They will take it back. I would leave her acct open until ur sure she is not entitled to any monies. My Mom received tax refunds after her death.

You are not responsible for Moms debts. I would call the hospital and tell them to stop billing Moms credit card. Also, tell them that the debt will not be paid because Mom is deceased. They may ask for her death certificate.
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I'm very sorry for your loss. I agree with Alva that consulting an elder or estate planning attorney to consult as they will know exactly what is required in your mom's state and you can give them more details than what you are able to here.

When asked please make sure you get way more death certificates than you think you need...I've read on this forum like 15 or more. Running out and then going to the expense and hassle and wait for more is avoidable if you ask for the maximum amount right away.

I also agree to never pay someone else's debts. Most large companies factor in loss into their prices and can also tax deduct a percentage of loss every year, so don't feel too sorry for them.

May you be comforted by good memories and receive peace in your heart.
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PJsummer Nov 2021
Thank you for the helpful information.
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You say that the money is in a joint bank account. Do know that Social Security will reclaim any money paid for the month that Mom died. After that you take a death certificate to the bank and the bank can be moved to an account in your name only. If there is no estate and your mom left no home, no money, then you (are you her executor by will? IS there a will) as her next of kin may not even have to file a probate. I would see a Trust an Estate Lawyer for the 350.00 an hour for advice on how to handle creditors.
Usually, when there is no estate, probate doesn't need to be filed and all creditors are notified of the death, a letter with death certificate is sent, and all bills are sent back "Died; no estate". NEVER pay any of your mother's bills, as that can be consider "assuming her debt" and then they can come after you. Hopefully you have not been paying her bills yourself; that may cause you problems ongoing.
It is time now to see a Trust and Estate Lawyer. The 350.00 you pay for an hour of his or her time will save you a world of hurt, and will inform you of the law regarding creditors in your state.
Do know that your Bank may already be aware of your Mom's death as funeral directors notify SS, and the credit reporting agencies get this information very quickly. There may already be some sort of flag on your account, so take your death certificate to your bank as soon as you are able.
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PJsummer Nov 2021
Thank you for the good information.
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