My mother passed away.
Thank you all so much!
My father went to his doctor and he is ok with his catheter now.
He did let me gather up his bills and get his bank account numbers believe it or not. I am setting him up for auto pay.
My sister has said often she hates us both so we have no contact with her. IDK what was changed in the will. She had it done one week before my mother died as I said. My mother was in terrible pain in the hospital when it was done and was probably on some sort of opioid.
The lawyer also kicked everyone out of the room when he came to change the will including my father.
She never had POA my cousin did. My father was the executor of the old will. If he is still the executor and he can't handle it (he probably can't) I will get POA for him with me as the POA
My father is seeing his lawyer tomorrow
I don't hate him I am just frustrated. Which hurts extra because I am dealing with my loss at the same time.
Thank you all (((hugs)))
BTW, I'm sorry for your loss, all the family dysfunction you are experiencing no doubt compounds it.
You may want to inquire..
is your sister POA for your dad? Health and financial?
If sister is, was thus dad’s decision? Does he k ie and understand?
Are you concerned for his well-being that he will be taken care of when he needs to go to assisted living or having financial stability should he needextra care?
one thing I learned from a friend.. she gave everyone she had lusted in her living trust and will a copy…
everyone has. Copy so there are no secrets or misunderstandings… I haven’t heard about doing that before, but it makes sense.
He isn't exactly the best person in the world but he was her husband. She asked for him when they were moving her to hospice. I actually think they loved each other.
:(
anyone with advice on when the will will be read? timeline?
I hate this
I assume I have to contact Social security and the myriad of bank accounts they have, my father is wallowing and cant help
I resent this
I would think your parents would have had a living trust together.. with a pour over will to cover all assets.. perhaps it’s different in other states. This is why I wondered if your parents were still married..
At least take this time to breathe.. and focus on your health and dad’s. Ag as in, I’m sorry you’re going through all if this…
They never had a financial advisor and they had/have a very good amount of money
The most I can do at this point is at least try to figure out my mother's social security :(
and step back from my father for a while
Her will is in possession with the new lawyer my sister hired.
Is your Father seeing a lawyer due to the concern over your Mom changing her Will in the hospital? Or is he there to make you his PoA and Executor?