We have visited and applied to many local nursing homes, but all have over a year waiting list. We should have anticipated this, but we didn't. Her medical needs are way beyond our capabilities, and in home care is more than she or we can manage. Medicaid at home assistance in our state is only a few hours a week. Unless she has an acute medical incident requiring a three day hospital stay, she cannot get into a nursing home before her money runs out. What can we do? We seem to have no options.