My mom is caregiver to her mom (my grandmother) and I have come to hate my grandmother with a boiling passion even to the point where I hate referring to her as my grandmother). My mom tries very hard to make time for me but her mother is always interfering and causing some sort of problem. I am getting married this year, my mom has hardly been able to help because of her mother- my mother has come to a couple appointments but it caused such a headache cause her mother needed something at these exact same times. I am exhausted over fighting for my mom's time. I feel like I am competing with my mom's mom for my moms time and attention. My mom and I use to be super close, but I am to the point where I just do not even want to put any effort into our mother/daughter relationship. My mom knows how I feel and she gets upset as she is just trying to make her mother happy. I have been very vocal about hating her mother. I want to give up on trying to have a relationship w my mom and maybe after her mom dies, she will have time for me. I am heartbroken.