My boyfriend of 15 yrs & I live with my mother who has dementia (not formally dx). My boyfriend has a cat named Sam. Sam is 16yrs old & is my boyfriend's buddy. However, my mother keeps telling us that she will miss Sam when he goes, or I will find Sam dead somewhere in the house, or that Sam is dying.
But here is the thing, we forgot to tell Sam that he is old. (LOL) Sam runs throughout the house like a mad man runnning up and down two flights of stairs chasing another cat, he is still getting into everything he can. Sam still chase his tail for crying out loud. Sam is very mischievous! Yes, Sam has bad days usually on cold wet days which is common for old cats and dogs. Sam has lost a lot of weight, which my mother is happy to point out to us as if we don't notice it.
These things my mother says hurts my boyfriend & makes him upset.
Yes, my mother has become negative about everything & I believe has depression. But she never say things like that about Mose who is my cat & is about 12 yrs old. And no my mother doesn't like me.
We know that a cat living passed 16 yrs is rare. Therefore, Sam's days are numbered.
My mother has always liked my boyfriend. And no we do not react to her comments! She is the one who gave Sam to my boyfriend. She always liked Sam in the past.
And yes, my mother is in bad health something to do with her heart. She won't give me details, but I think CHF. She has all the symptoms of it.
Here is my question, is my mother saying this things talking about herself, just to be mean, or is it something else?
I know this is a strange question & probably not very important one, just wanted some options.