She has been living with me for 30 years. She knows who I am 90 percent of the time, is still eating, sleeps 22 hours of the day - I wake her to eat and use the bathroom. She has severe arthritis and is incontinent. I have to lift her out of bed and hold her as she shuffles with her walker, remove her disposable underwear and get her on the toilet etc. She is still eating well.
Is this too soon for hospice? She says she wants to stay with me but my family is concerned it is taking a toll on my health - both physically and mentally. I feel such huge guilt and it is killing me to think of her leaving.
Any advice is appreciated greatly!