For the past 6 years since my 85 year old mother lost her husband she has been getting more and more combative, defiant, belligerent. I grew up in a narcissistic home. The father, the mother and the sister. I had health issues and was the empath. I currently stay with my mother since the fathers passing. on and off but it has become unbearable. She has thrown out my belongings over the years and I have bought some back, but she is giving away antiques and paintings I wanted and furniture just out of spite. I stay with her in hopes that I can hide a few pieces for myself. she finds them and tosses them out when I am asleep. Who do I go to for meds for her. She has taken all the necessary tests and unfortunately passed them. But I know she is declining as she gets more and more physical with me and is stronger than I am. I can't find anyone who will believe me. They take her side or other family members side over what I have seen. Please advise. Her narc daughter has the POA and HCP. I do not have any rights even with the HIPPA forms they don't speak to me, the doctors.
Start looking for a room to rent, and get out of the toxic environment. A free place to live is not worth the abuse.
You are stuck in a hopeless situation and apparently lacking credibility. Take the things you want and move out. Call APS once you are out and tell them Mom is a vulnerable adult. Then disappear, avoid the POA daughter and take your life back.
As far as believing you, would it help if I told you that I absolutely believe you? Because I do. I have seen this type of behavior before and I've even seen worse. I'm sure she is throwing things out to mess with your head, I believe she attacks you, and I am sure she knows everything to say to get you worked up in every way imaginable. This is disordered behavior. You can't do anything about it or her.
BUT, you can do something about you, for yourself. Pretend the objects you want so badly are gone, because they kind of are, and she is using them as a way to keep you where she wants you. Once you remove the emotional charge pulling you to the objects, you can then detach from the situation. Move out. Go see a social worker in your area and get help to move elsewhere. Some day, she might leave you some of the objects, and if she does, that's great. If not, well, that's the price of freedom.
Good luck to you, and I do wish you peace. Getting away from these things and this woman will be a big step toward peace indeed.
Whomever gave mom results that she's "going into cognitive decline" can write prescriptions for her.
Good luck.