She won't make her own meals like, sandwiches, toast or coffee. I would like to make plans for my husband and I to take a weekend trip together. My mom moved in with us after her neck surgery. A nerve was damaged and she couldn’t lift her left arm. It’s been a year and 1/2 now. Her arm is back to normal. She can wash and dress herself. She walks with a walker and moves along fairly well. I make sure she has breakfast, lunch and dinner, I wash and lay her clothes out every day and manage her medications. I manage her doctors appointments and also take her to them. I have learned that she is not self motivated and will wait until I ask her if she wants to go to a movie or out to a store. Since she’s moved with us, she hasn’t stepped out of the house for fresh air unless I ask her or she has a doctor's appointment. I don’t expect her to change but I would like some input on ways I can set her up for a few days while my husband and I take a day or two away. Setting up her clothes is easy but getting her to fix her own toast, sandwich or heat up a dinner is questionable. I can have my daughter check on her but I really need her to do some of these things herself. Especially when I know she can. It took her a year to adjust and mentally settle. She’s moved from Philadelphia to Texas. Which was a huge change but, she asked to stay. We welcomed her with open arms and put a good bit of money in to make things comfortable (bed, new toilet, chair, pull out drawers for easy access, bars for the tub etc). I think she has gotten so use to me doing everything that she doesn’t want to try. She tells me the coffee maker is to fancy or she doesn’t know how the water dispenser works. She almost coughed herself to death once and didn’t think to get up and get water from the sink, frig or the dispenser! Any advise will surely help.