Mother in law has a bed wetting problem. She gets pads thru insurance since dr write prescription for them. she also uses bed pads that don't have the plastic on them. Husband talked to her bout situation she told him that she can't have the surgery (basically that it would kill her) an won't tell him what is wrong with her. I believe she can't afford it or to take time off of work. Everytime she opens her door to room it make the whole house smell horrid of urine. If she washes her clothes or bedding in our smart washer it makes the house smell an her clothes still think of urine. When put in dryer the outside smells of a strong urine smell. Even when she walks by ya can smell the urine smell on her. I have been living with them the past 6 months an she hasn't ever cleaned her room or bathroom.. it took me 2 an half hours to clean the bathroom an get the urine smell out. She was told to deep clean her room an she hasn't an won't. She is in her room in her bed 18 hours a day. Only time she gets out her bed is to go work. She leaves at 630 an returns at 215. Since living there my head hurts, an feels like it's floating an I'm all stuffed up (kinda like a cold) I'm tired, feel like ugh and have no energy.. I can be 100 percent fine while in our room but the min I walk out I to main part of house within mins I feel all systems above. His mother has had a nasty cough an I believe she also has a urinary tract infection an I'm not sure why she won't go get looked at, she is a diabetic on top of it. I also talked to someone whom use to live with my husband an his mother an she said that it smelled like urine when she lived there an that the mother never cleaned. I believe it's not gonna go away since it's in her bed an possibly in carpet under an around her bed. She lives with my husband an don't pay to live there. My husband has my back an has told his mother to change her ways but it's been 3 months now an she hasn't changed anything.. Im over being sick an my kids not wanting to be there and when guest come over they make comments bout it. It's caused friction between me an husband an with me an his mother. Also advice on how to go about evicting her since she won't do anything to make things better. (She only went to dr cuz my 17 year old told her she had a very nasty UTI an needs to get it checked, an she did but only difference is the nasty yeast smell is gone but not the over powering urine smell). She knows that we want to sell current place and buy a different one an that she isn't moving with us. She was told almost 3 months ago to look for new place an she hasn't done anything besides make us sick an cost us more money. The lack of respect is just ridiculous.. thanks for any advice, it's much appreciated.
Some are done in a hospital, and the patient goes home the same day. I've never heard of anyone dying of any bladder surgery, and since I have bladder issues myself, I'm pretty well informed about the issue.
Also, there are many medicines to treat bladder problems these days. It is simply not necessary to live with incontinence when there are ways to stop it. Many people are too shy to see a doctor to address this medical problem. That's sad, but everyone else shouldn't have to suffer because of their refusal of treatment.
I suspect that your mother-in-law is bluffing. Chances are she's never discussed this with a doctor because she's afraid. How anyone could be more fearful of a procedure to correct urinary incontinence than she is of contaminating your home with her nasty bodily fluids, I don't know. I suggest you give her an ultimatum: get it fixed or get out. She's more likely to drown in her own urine than to die from a bladder procedure.
Be well informed and be firm. I'm really sorry you've had to deal with this.
What are you going to do about this? Keep yourself and your children living in a toilet, or get out? It's up to YOU.
Good luck.
If not....time to see a divorce lawyer.
Move out to protect your health. How is MIL escaping people at work not smelling her and complaining?
If she can control her bladder at work, why is she not doing this at home?
If she refuses to move out, you have to start the eviction process. So do that because in all likelihood you are going to have to.
In the meantime, put a plastic mattress cover on her bed and when she washes her clothes insist that she run the washer cycle with some 'Pooph' for laundry or some OxyClean crystals.
So I THEN read: "She lives with my husband (and you I assume????) and don't pay to live there".
So now I am very confused.
This is, if she lives with you, a marital problem. It sounds as though you don't wish to live in YOUR home which now REEKS of urine, and your husband is ignoring your wishes.
I personally would be seeking the advice of a divorce attorney and getting a small efficiency apartment and division of finances at this time. Sounds as though these problems are mounting, getting worse, and are without resolution.
Recently one of our members said that a doctor said to her "In the end it may come down to them or you" as regards attempts to care for problematic parent.
Sometimes that is just TRUTH.