She has never been to the doctor. She had a spot about 20 years ago she says that has now become skin cancer we are assuming. Its very bad with exposed neck bones. Neither one of her kids have known about this as she has had it covered for 20 years. It was discovered as now she is unable to care for herself and the daughter in law is caring for her. Can her son's be changed with neglect when she passes? They have called the EMS a few times when she has fallen and she has refused to go to the hospital or have any medical care.
If you called EMS and they refused to transport her, then they as professionals made that decision.
You currently say she has been accepted into the care of her DIL. This woman should not call APS and tell them exactly what you just told US. Ask daughter-in-law to ask APS if they will come to assess her and her mentation, to decide if she should be transported to care AGAINST HER WILL AND WISHES, or if they can assist her in writing a directive saying she does not wish to have any care.
Best to you. Hope you will let us know how all goes.
I hope the new year has better in store than this sad beginning.