My mother-in-law has first stages of dementia. She lives with her husband (he is in poor physical health and is not much help to her--both physically and emotionally.) I live 35 miles away and spend one day a week with her. It's hard for me to discern what she needs help with and what I should still let her handle. Right now I help her clean house and go through her checking account and mail. She is willing to let me help--we have a great relationship. What else do I need to pay attention to?